And She Said “Yes!”


I hadn’t worn my wedding ring for a long time. There wasn’t a change in my marital status, but there was a change in my ring size. I had not done anything about it because I was uncomfortable letting the ring leave my possession, even temporarily. I changed my mind when someone I just met suggested a singles group for older Christians. It was time to get the ring size adjusted.

I handed the ring over to the jeweler. A week later, my ring was ready, but it didn’t look like my ring anymore: the special brush finish was gone. The ring was sent back. We went round and round for several weeks trying to restore the ring back to “wedding day” condition. A month after I let go of my ring, I held it in my hand again. The jeweler looked at me with questioning eyes. “Yes!” I proclaimed. To which the jeweler responded, “That’s what I wanted to hear.”

My new “old ring” looks beautiful. It is no longer the same as the day my husband placed it on my finger. But neither am I, as I compare the image in the mirror to the wedding day pictures from 27 years ago. The changes are not just physical. God has changed me from the inside out. God has smoothed over the many rough edges so I can do a better job of shining for Him. God has enlarged my faith by extending His hand to me for the past 20 years. I wear His mark on my life with joyful celebration of the past and the years yet to come. And I will keep saying “Yes!” to God all over again.

Hosea 2:19-20

I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.  I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the LORD. 


The Question That Should Have Offended


A dear friend from church put his arm around me and with no other introduction than a big smile on his face, asked, “Do you or your husband need the name of a good divorce attorney?” Maybe I should have been offended by his question, but I knew exactly what he was referring to. My husband and I bought a “new” old house with lots of projects.  We are trying to do most of the work ourselves which can result in some very long and tense days at the house. How did my friend know? The answer can be found in his marriage of fifty years plus and “been there, done that” type of life experiences.  Oh how I needed the reminder that my husband and I will get through this. His smile also spoke volumes about his marriage. A sense of humor and laughter is required for a long-lasting marriage. Still, I detected more: joy in their shared stories and joy in each other’s presence that grows with the passing years. At only 26 years of marriage, my husband and I have some catching up to do. The house projects will fade and become another memory in our shared history. In the meantime, I will find a reason to laugh with my husband.


Job 8:21

He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy.